Are You Using Consistency Against Yourself?

Here’s a question for you.

Is the goal to be consistent, or is the goal to achieve a specific result?

So many of us set a goal, make a plan, struggle to be consistent with our plan, and then beat ourselves up and shame ourselves for not being consistent with our plan (aka not doing what we said we would do). We spend lots of mental and emotional energy thinking about all the times we set goals in the past and weren’t consistent. We want to stay positive but we can’t shake the nagging fear that this time will end up like all the others. After a few more starts and stops, we give up, until the next time when we repeat this entire pattern again.

We label ourselves as “someone who struggles to be consistent” or “someone who doesn’t do what they set out to do.”

The problem with negative labels is we tend to accept them as true and they become part of our self-concept (what we believe about ourselves).

We struggle to change when what we believe about ourselves is in conflict with what we’re trying to do.

The key to building lasting habits is focusing on creating a new identity first.

Your current behaviors are simply a reflection of your current identity.

What you do now is a mirror image of the type of person you believe that you are (either consciously or subconsciously).

To change your behavior for good, you need to start believing new things about yourself.

You need to build identity-based habits.

Changing your beliefs isn’t nearly as hard as you think. There are two steps:

2. Prove it to yourself with small wins.

Your identity emerges out of your habits. Every action is a vote for the type of person you wish to become.

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